Imagine a child that you’re close to that isn’t your own. A child that you love and admire their growth. Imagine in monthly increments, how have they grown in the past 6 months? I bet you smile and say, that’s beautiful! It’s easy to see how fast they grow when they don’t demand everything from you and there can be some appreciation for their little phases..they go through too many. Now, think of your own child/children. It’s not as beautiful, isn’t it? I find myself always wanting my kids to hit the next stage of maturity. It’s truly a complicated dilemma. I think it’s a demanding job as a parent. We are drained. We just want peace. “I want this”, “I want that”, “is it time to eat”, “I don’t want to sleep!”. Sometimes, When the day is done, I think to myself, I need peace! I need quiet!
You see, I babysit. 6 different little lives that demand my attention only a fraction of what they demand of their Mom and Dad. I love comparing pictures and videos of their monthly growth. I love thinking of their emotional and physical growth. One of my boys that I started watching when he was one just hit his terrible twos. I smile because I know this will pass. I smile because I know this is when he learns just how to handle his frustrations and anxiety. You see, the terrible twos, three teens, and “God help me fours” is just stepping stones to learn to act as they grow. It’s so much easier to appreciate when you’re only there a fraction of the time. I don’t appreciate my kid’s stages so much. I should. After all, they are my kids.
The world demands so much of us, we put our kids first for all their needs..except one. Emotional. I find it’s easy to raise a child. You feed them, put them to bed, work to give them the life we didn’t have, and tell them how they should act. I believe the hardest part is to be emotionally available for our kids. Even though it’s not the New Year yet, this is my resolution. Be emotionally available to my kids.
My husband once told me “I don’t like you right now, but I will chose to love you.” This holds true for our kids too. Even when our kids demand everything from us, we need to chose to love them through their awful stages. A bible scripture gives us a definition of what love is. It’s spot on too!
Love:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Did we chose to love today?